Month: March 2017

[Book 8/52] How to Stop Worrying and Start Living – Review

[Book 8/52] How to Stop Worrying and Start Living – Review

All my life I have been worried about many aspects of my life and that has probably caused a steady hair fall.

We can find many friends who have always advised us not to worry. The fact is neither they nor us know how to stop worrying. It’s not a like a switch where you can switch Off the worry Button. Of course there those who have mastered it but there a lot many who think they have mastery over it. I being one if them.

This book has been a pivotal point in my life, which not bring the hair I lost or the lines on my forehead. But from now on I can confidently express myself and be carefree. Dale Carnegie has done a Fabulous job in explaining how not to worry and has illustrated many methods, out of which we can adopt few.

While reading this book, you might feel this is common sense, but it’s not as easy to apply as it may seem. For anyone who is thinking to read this book, please hand in there till the last page of the book.

Who should read this book? If you think you are a person who victimises himself or herself and constantly dwells over the last or is obsessed with some situation that you have no control over. How to stop worrying and start living is a book for you.

How to Stop Worrying and Start Living has changed my life and will go into the section of my favourite reads.

You can find the book here on Goodreads.

Being true to yourself is difficult

Being true to yourself is difficult

I was always a person who never voiced his opinion or his preferences. I always used to shy away from even facing my thoughts. Not speaking out loud already caused me a lot of trouble and prevented me in telling the truth either to myself, let even others.

I stumbled upon this app called Daylio, which is an app that allows you to choose your current mood and then write a note about what you fee at that moment. You can categorize those moods in categories such as work, sleeping, exercise, dating, etc. I thought this would help me express myself in the truest form, but I failed to do it initially.

It has been 100 days since I have used this app and, now I am slowly able to express myself in the truest form. To able to talk to me without fear itself is a significant achievement! Also, to voice some of my shortcomings in a platform such as Medium is a big step to being comfortable in my own skin.

I could totally relate to the quote written by INahid – “You’re only kidding yourself when you try to be someone you’re not.”

I have been kidding myself but those days are past.

Waking up to her messy beauty

Waking up to her messy beauty

What kind of partner do you want?

A question two of my friends have asked me, and I was convincingly able to give the same answer to both of them without hesitation. I can think many different ways to describe what I want in a partner. But it all comes down one thing – peacefully getting up to her messy beauty in the morning.

The real measure of women’s beauty is when she wakes up messy in the morning, and you never get bored of seeing her that way.

I believe in an idea where I am excited to return home. The feeling of being excited is what defines the pure essence of calling something home. You don’t want to get back to just to argue over something silly and trivial. You know you are living that relationship when you feel like kissing her forehead every morning. The messy beauty grows stronger by the day, and a beautiful, compassionate love is born. Passionate love can last a couple of years, but compassionate love grows over time.

Of course, I cannot say there is not a relation that can survive without few fights and arguments. For this, we have to deconstruct and bring out the two different mindsets. Fixed mindset is where either of the partners in a relationship has the little amount of Self-Awareness. Their attempt is to focus their energy on correcting habits which are of little importance in a relation. This kind of mindset creates some friction and curbs your excitement to reach home.

Growth mindset on the other is different. It’s a much better umbrella to have those fights and arguments. You do not feel irritated; there is no frustration in doing other tasks or even working. Each of the partners provides enough space for each other to be themselves and understand the importance of individual time.

 

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[Book 6/52]Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

[Book 6/52]Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

Aziz Ansari describes the current scenario of modern dating and relationship with surprising statistics. For a person from the Analytics and lack of humor, this book has been filled with insights. I would not believe half of what he said if it was not backed up by some solid statistics.

The dating scenario now has a lot more channels of communications, and with these new emerging challenges, things get more complicated. There new ways of expressing love in different ways but patience to stick on to one relation is short lived. Aziz in his last chapters mentions how important it is to treat all the communication from different channels equally important and avoid getting into the trap of playing games.

What I took away from this book were a little sense of humor and grew a bit more intelligence on how to sustain a relationship. Of course, there are other things in the book, but it’s difficult for me to consume that sort of information.

Not a must read, but if you do enjoy good humor and some sexy statistics about relations, this book is for you.

You can find the book here on Goodreads.