Category: Gratitude

Write 1-3 paragraphs of how each and everyone you know in your life has influenced.

My first crush reminded me of what butterflies feel like

My first crush reminded me of what butterflies feel like

I was in a hostel when I first got introduced to the song called “There She Goes.” I had a friend write the lyrics for me in a book so that I could sing aloud whenever I heard the song. Of course, back then English did not come naturally to me. I had to put in some extra effort to learn one song. I did not realise this song was going to become an exclusive song which would reverberate in my head all my life. Even after 15 years, this song remains exclusively for her. Before I go any further, I would like you to hear the song. I am sure you will love it too.

The first time I saw her, I had butterflies in my stomach. I did not know what that meant, but whatever it was, it felt good. I had seen her many times before, but this was the first time I noticed her walking graciously in the amphitheatre. It was probably a Sunday, and she was with her elder sister if I remember correctly. It was a slow revelation to me, I was walking up the amphitheatre, and there she stood laughing with her sister. Out of nowhere, this song popped in my head, and from that moment, it became her song. Whenever she went past time slowed down, and this song played continuously. The memory of my first experience with her was far stronger than my experience of being bullied in the same amphitheatre.

You can see what I am talking about in this video from Tare Zameen Par, except that I was moving up the steps while she stood there laughing. A little later in this video, Ishaan picks my favourite spot for painting. It’s where I used to daydream a lot and spent a lot of time.

Much like my effort to learn English, it was difficult to articulate this experience. I had to see multiple movies before I could describe what I liked about her. It came down to one thing – her laugh was contagious. The moment this dawned on me, I always wished I could be around whenever she laughed.

The more movies I saw with “dating” stuff, I learned to describe her. I felt her laugh was natural and she had the perfect hair to compliment her while she laughed. The hair band she wore sometimes made her even cuter. Her cheeks had no spots as much as I recall, which made her glow whenever she laughed. Whenever I got the chance and remembered a girl like her existed, I went to class early and waited for her to enter, of course by now you might have guessed “There She Goes” was on full volume. But everything changed when a film called Kuch Kuch Hota Hai released during out year-end vacation.

When we returned to school after vacation, I saw many girls with the mushroom haircut Kajol had in the movie. I did not see the film, and I got to know this much later when some of my friends told me how this tomboyish hairstyle became a fad. Secretly, I hoped she hadn’t got this hairdo, but to my horror, she had the haircut too! My heart sank, but not for long. She laughed, and all was ok. I gave it some thought, and it was the first time I learned to appreciate others’ choices. And I felt, perhaps a one-sided messy braid would have complimented her personality better.

Her sister was all prim and proper, but somehow I felt my crush had a beauty which I would like to describe as Messy Beauty. It may sound odd at first instance but it is more a figurative way of calling someone beautiful because they were not too conscious about how they looked. Also, they have a fantastically peculiar personality to follow their passion. I felt she is one such person. She stood out because of this somehow, and I felt this desire was visible and it felt like no matter what happens no one can take that away from her.

Messy Beauty – Someone who is unapologetically true to self and knows what is true freedom.

Having her around just made me happy. I felt dating was such a funny option. I wished I could get to know her better and talk to her. But it never occurred to me that I could also attempt. I was usually shy and lost in my world most of the times. Confidence was low. I could not even think of talking to her. How I wish I could muster a little bit of confidence and know her a little more.

I am glad I got the courage to write this about her and hoping it reaches her with good intentions.

My experience of the best ever Uber ride in Delhi!

My experience of the best ever Uber ride in Delhi!

We have come across a few posts/articles going viral about the harrowing experience with certain Uber drivers in Delhi. Although we cannot deny these horrifying behaviours, we should also take a chance to highlight the good Uber drivers.

On 23rd April 2017,  I got an opportunity to experience how friendly few of the Uber drivers are in Delhi. I was fortunate to meet Shobha who I feel is one of those finest Uber drivers.

Shobha was 15 minutes away from the pick location I had chosen. So, I called him and asked him whether he was going to honour the trip. He replied by saying if I would not mind waiting for 15 minutes, he would honour it. Since I had time in hand, I did not mind waiting and gave him the exact number of which house I was visiting. For some reason, the location on the map could not lead him directly to the pickup location. In my experience, many times few of the drivers call me multiple times till they find my pick up location. To my surprise, Shobha found the pickup location by asking a nearby laundry shop.

When I sat in the car, he offered me mobile charging wire, and it helped me, as my battery was down. He also had the courtesy to ask me flight timings and promised me to take me there on time. He claimed he never faltered on time. He drove according to the passenger’s destination in mind and the time in which they had to reach there.

Shobha owned a neatly maintained Maruthi Suzuki Wagon R. It took him few minutes to strike a conversation. He spoke asked about me and talked about his family.

He had a happy family until a few unfortunate events devastated them. Three of siblings of Shobha’s father died in the same year. His grandmother was killed fighting a robbery that took place in their house the same year. Shobha’s grandfather did not want his 4th son to die, so he tore his father’s army selection papers. Shobha’s father was the only bread earner. Shobha himself also was under pressure to earn quickly and start supporting his family.

Shobha is fond of his mother, and he mentioned that he never disobeys his mother as she once punished him when he gambled by playing marbles. Post which he has never dared to make any mistake. He always speaks the truth to his mother, however, difficult it may be. He visits and sends his mother some money every month.

In Delhi he stays with his wife and two children; one of them is three years old, and the other is six years old who joined the school. He says the six-year-old is very demanding and a very curious mind.

By this time we were speaking openly which when he took a pause and offered me a small gift. It was a coupon with Rs. 50 off on my next Uber drive. He told he gave this to people who he connected by heart(Jinke saath dil ka rishta ban jata hai).

I asked about which movie he watches. He told me that he never saw a movie in his whole lifetime. I did advise him to take his family once to a movie. Hoping he does go to a movie with them.

Time and again he has an update of where we were and how much time we had left to reach the airport. When I reached the airport, he has the courtesy to ask me, if the ride was good and if there was any inconvenience he caused me.

In my mind, with the chat I had with him, he had lifted my mood with an entirely engaging conversation about his family members and how he became the strength of the household when his father died.

For me, this was an Above and Beyond Uber ride. You do not need a lot to make to provide a super Uber drive. It just takes small gestures like Shobha and his effort to put 100% to making his customers smile. When I left I took a selfie with him and offered him a few chocolates for his children. The smile Shobha gave was priceless.

For the reputation Uber carries in Delhi, it’s time to show the world that heroes like this also exist.

If you are in Delhi and happen to meet Shobha, please share him my sincere Gratitude and do talk to him. He is super engaging.