Category: What we only see

[Inspirational Quote 2] On Life | by Master Oogway

[Inspirational Quote 2] On Life | by Master Oogway

There is a lot to learn from animated films. They tell a simple message which is very meaningful and relevant.

One of my favourite animated films is King Fu Panda and the character I like most after the Po is Master Oogway.

He quoted this when Po was upset and was in self-doubt – called “sucking” by Po.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. That is why it is called present.

This quote reminds me of how precious today is. It fills me with energy to make the most of today.

Do let me know what quote from an animated film inspired you?

Inside the mind of a happy person

Inside the mind of a happy person

I open a door which is at the highest level. I enter the room as always with a smile, appreciating the beauty of life. There were a variety of soft bright colours all around the room. It feels like you were in an animated movie but everything is real. I sat there gazing at the colours. I could feel the soft breeze and the freshness of the grass in the room. I could smell the fragrance of Rose. I had nothing in the mind. I was only enjoying the beauty.

“The shirt you are wearing in this photo makes you look like a gay.” said a voice from another room.

I found myself opening another door. This door was many levels below I the room I enjoyed spending time. It seemed like it had bright colours. But I was fooled. I got sucked into the room and the door behind closed. I had no option to go back, so I went further into the room. This room had mud all over. My shoes were now muddy. The thought of cleaning it lingered in my mind. It started raining. I regretted about not carrying my umbrella. My worst fears kept coming alive one by one. Due to the rain, I had a running nose. My mobile and wallet were in my pocket and had no means of protecting them. By now they were thoroughly wet.

I took a moment to ask myself a question.

Am I creating this situation for myself?

The moment I asked this question, I realised, the power to turn things around and what I can create was in my control.

I ran towards a different door. As soon as I entered, I soon realised the room had many clones of me. Each of them had an opinion about the situation.

One with an orange robe said, “The voice from another door might be jealous; calm down. That voice does not know the impact of those words. You are the mature one”.

One with a beard, who was eating a burger said, “How could she say like that to you?”.

This question made me angry and sad at the same time. I realised I hate criticism.

The one in semi formals said, “There are better ways to express criticism”.

The one in the formals said, “Not all of them are like you”.

One with an orange robe spoke again, “It has nothing to do with who you are. Just ignore it”.

Another one who looked exactly like me said: “Maybe it’s sarcasm. Just smile and let it go”.

I smiled. The clones started disappearing. Without the clones, the room became smaller. I knew I had to open a door and enter into it. I did just that, and finally, I was back into the room I loved.

I was back into the bright colours and the feeling of warmth. Back to that awesome feeling of grass beneath me and fragrance of Rose. The door of the from where the voice came from was still around visible. It was slowly vanishing into the bright colours. It was faintly visible as if it could just come back anytime.

I thought to myself, “Why isn’t it vanishing?”.

Listen to music I said. I put on a soothing song by Santana. It is called Europa. I started grooving to the guitar. This song is just beautiful. I started floating up in the bright room. It felt like I was in a void floating around. The door from which the voice came from was not becoming fainter. It started to disappear. I continued to enjoy the music. I was back to my happy state without the worry of the voice.

Looking at the good side of every situation

Looking at the good side of every situation

“If a man has ten good qualities and one bad quality, look at the ten and forget the one. If a man has one good quality and ten bad qualities, look at the one and forget the ten.”

I studied in a Baha’i school, and the above quote has shaped how I lead my life. The example that was given to support this quote was intriguing and helped me remember this quote till today.

A guru and his disciples happen to notice a dead dog while they were walking towards their ashram. The corpse of the dog was stinking, and all the disciples were irked and closed their noses to avoid the foul smell. The guru, however, had a smile on his face and went closer to the corpse. He sat close to the dog and gazed at it for a few minutes and continued walking to the ashram. His disciples followed the guru and did not utter a word till they reached the ashram. They were surprised at what the guru did.

The disciples with a little hesitance but gathered the courage to ask the guru of why he went near the corpse. Why did he gaze at the dog for a while, as the smell was awful?

The guru knew this question was coming his way. He paused till everyone gathered and settled around him. His reply was rather a simple one with a deep understanding of how the world works. He told his disciples about the most amazing white teeth the dead dog had. He was in awe of them, and that was the reason he went near to the dog.He further told them that his focus was only on the beautiful white teeth, that he ignored the foul smell, the awful view of the rest of the body.

The guru’s point was simple; we are often in situations where we first notice the negative stuff. Various news channels broadcast the negative story and create a biased view. Out mind is so conditioned to believe the first sight of negativity easily. Of course, many have the ability to see the good side of everything but there far more people who do not see the right.

Can we flip the thought process of identifying the negativity first?

Yes, we can!

How?

Instead of creating an opinion on the information we have at hand we wait for more details. It’s like a puzzle piece, we don’t have to make the decision based on the few pieces of information we have but rather wait till be have 80% of the pieces to make the decision. We all can agree that when we have at least 80 of the puzzle pieces, we can nearly make out what the picture in the puzzle is.

I believe this thought process can create a lot less confusion and help many not just view the world in a biased manner.

Let me know what you think? 

My experience of the best ever Uber ride in Delhi!

My experience of the best ever Uber ride in Delhi!

We have come across a few posts/articles going viral about the harrowing experience with certain Uber drivers in Delhi. Although we cannot deny these horrifying behaviours, we should also take a chance to highlight the good Uber drivers.

On 23rd April 2017,  I got an opportunity to experience how friendly few of the Uber drivers are in Delhi. I was fortunate to meet Shobha who I feel is one of those finest Uber drivers.

Shobha was 15 minutes away from the pick location I had chosen. So, I called him and asked him whether he was going to honour the trip. He replied by saying if I would not mind waiting for 15 minutes, he would honour it. Since I had time in hand, I did not mind waiting and gave him the exact number of which house I was visiting. For some reason, the location on the map could not lead him directly to the pickup location. In my experience, many times few of the drivers call me multiple times till they find my pick up location. To my surprise, Shobha found the pickup location by asking a nearby laundry shop.

When I sat in the car, he offered me mobile charging wire, and it helped me, as my battery was down. He also had the courtesy to ask me flight timings and promised me to take me there on time. He claimed he never faltered on time. He drove according to the passenger’s destination in mind and the time in which they had to reach there.

Shobha owned a neatly maintained Maruthi Suzuki Wagon R. It took him few minutes to strike a conversation. He spoke asked about me and talked about his family.

He had a happy family until a few unfortunate events devastated them. Three of siblings of Shobha’s father died in the same year. His grandmother was killed fighting a robbery that took place in their house the same year. Shobha’s grandfather did not want his 4th son to die, so he tore his father’s army selection papers. Shobha’s father was the only bread earner. Shobha himself also was under pressure to earn quickly and start supporting his family.

Shobha is fond of his mother, and he mentioned that he never disobeys his mother as she once punished him when he gambled by playing marbles. Post which he has never dared to make any mistake. He always speaks the truth to his mother, however, difficult it may be. He visits and sends his mother some money every month.

In Delhi he stays with his wife and two children; one of them is three years old, and the other is six years old who joined the school. He says the six-year-old is very demanding and a very curious mind.

By this time we were speaking openly which when he took a pause and offered me a small gift. It was a coupon with Rs. 50 off on my next Uber drive. He told he gave this to people who he connected by heart(Jinke saath dil ka rishta ban jata hai).

I asked about which movie he watches. He told me that he never saw a movie in his whole lifetime. I did advise him to take his family once to a movie. Hoping he does go to a movie with them.

Time and again he has an update of where we were and how much time we had left to reach the airport. When I reached the airport, he has the courtesy to ask me, if the ride was good and if there was any inconvenience he caused me.

In my mind, with the chat I had with him, he had lifted my mood with an entirely engaging conversation about his family members and how he became the strength of the household when his father died.

For me, this was an Above and Beyond Uber ride. You do not need a lot to make to provide a super Uber drive. It just takes small gestures like Shobha and his effort to put 100% to making his customers smile. When I left I took a selfie with him and offered him a few chocolates for his children. The smile Shobha gave was priceless.

For the reputation Uber carries in Delhi, it’s time to show the world that heroes like this also exist.

If you are in Delhi and happen to meet Shobha, please share him my sincere Gratitude and do talk to him. He is super engaging.

Stairway to Musical Nirvana

Stairway to Musical Nirvana

To be frank, I was not much a “music” fan. I heard a few Bollywood songs, Euphoria, and a few English bands such as Backstreet Boys, Boyzone, and a few Eminem songs. Nah, how can I forget a more fun Phalguni Pathak, Aqua and Bombay Vikings? I enjoyed many of those songs back then but still could not find the songs that I could start enjoying and listening on repeat. Now I cannot deny that there was good music made back then, but my exposure to them was zero. I heard those that were commonly available to me, and after I had joined a hostel, I lost interest on something that was hard to find. Let’s just say I had lot more things to keep me occupied.

Throughout my college and engineering I was introduced to Telugu Music and to be frank, I able connect well with many of the songs and enjoyed many songs which made me dance naturally. It was the first experience of other language music, and it expanded my exposure to music. I released that with music you need not understand the lyrics, but you can totally connect with the passion it intended to unleash. I knew no matter what the source of the song was; it was always meant to express something. Wasn’t it obvious? Yes for many it is, but I took much more time to get this.

Now that I think, in the midst of all the drama of having a crush or the luxury of a girlfriend would make me realise this much earlier. Or probably a guru. Being a geek and a person who kind of lost in my weird world chances of those were slim.

After three years of my working, I was fortunate enough to be in Bangalore at the right time. A much better place to be and of course I found a guru. I will introduce him more as the custodian of chill, a good Samaritan, and silhouette guitarist. He taught me the distinction of a legendary artist and other artists. The love for a few classical rock songs he suggested grew over time. His profound words on listening to music without any distraction. He told that we must let them adequately communicate to us. Pink Floyd, Dire Straits, Coke Studio and many others have kept me company many times. With his guidance, I felt the real power of the solo’s and its pure Nirvana!

Husn-i jaanaan ki ta’reef mumkin naheen, Afreen Afreen !

Of course, I dated someone and was able to relate to why romantic songs gain so much popularity. It natural for every person on earth to get emotionally attached, some make music to express, while others use it to communicate. When you are happy, you listen to a few romantic songs, in sadness the heartfelt related songs. I also started listening to some classics of Indian music and the passion with which each of the lyrics written. It was of exceptional quality and an epic showcase of a real musical artist. I went through a roller coaster ride of emotions, and I found myself listening to songs I would have never imagined. For every emotion, there is a song aptly made, or it is the other way round. I somehow stumbled across the right song for that moment used always to find me. Again how? I don’t know!

I feel I have just started and there is more to music than meets your inner peace. My younger brother gave a collection of varied music, and I have just begun to scratch the surface of it.

If it were not for my guru, I would not have not even taken the first step to the stairway of my musical Nirvana!
The image below shows, how I always imagine him. Also added one of his performances. 🙂

The Silhouette Guitarist:
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And one of his performances @ Gokarna:

Our Trek Guide was a Boss !

Our Trek Guide was a Boss !

My brother signed me up for a Trek at the Sharavathi Valley Wildlife Sanctuary. He had visited this valley with an experience he will never forget. The forest was one of a kind experience for me as it was unexplored and serene. Apart from the beauty I experience during the trek, my thoughts went to thinking about the guides. We wore proper trek shoes and fitting shorts or pants while the guides wore a pair of chappals and dhoti.

The guide cut through the forest without damaging it much and kept in led us through the whole trek without a single drop of water or even getting tired. He had to sometimes wait for others to catch up before he could proceed again.

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There another guy who carried all our lunch equipment along with us. He too was nothing less than a strong man but very skinny. He also wore chappals. Both of them were simply showed us how insignificant our life troubles could be when compared to these guys.

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And what can I say about the lunch we had in the middle of the forest. It was simply superb and taste I will remember forever.

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Also, I met the crab, being a Cancerian this wild miniature guy was spectacular to watch.

Wild Crab
Wild Crab

Can’t wait to come across another such experience.

Experience through natural stimulation

Experience through natural stimulation

I have always been convinced that we need not really experience something by doing it. Our brain has the capability of stimulating that experience and reach a conclusion. This does not mean we stop trying out real experiences. All I want to point out is that there ways to stimulate any sort of experience sometimes by listening to others and intuitively guessing how things work. We can never really figure out a concrete method of stimulating new experiences.

When we do something we do something unknowingly/sub consciously, we have already stimulated the experience. Sometimes we stimulate that experience just to be confident.

This Ted talk validates the method of how I have trained myself to stimulate various experiences. Yet realize the potential of real experiences.