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Modern Ekalavya Learning Technique 6 – Sustaining Daily Habits

Modern Ekalavya Learning Technique 6 – Sustaining Daily Habits

Goals set. Daily habits are in place.

But.

There are days where our work demands more time and sometimes unplanned activities. Also, we cannot ignore our responsibility towards our family and close friends.

While starting off my daily habits, I faced many challenges do sustain them. Many years of habits were hard to shake off. Habits such as spending pointless hours on Social Media. Hours spent worrying, thinking about my future and dwelling on the past. Feeling of guilt if not doing the things I like. Fear of missing out. To shut these thoughts, watching movies and binge-watching TV series.

The fact is we are a generation with knowledge on our fingertips. For the previous generation, knowledge was power. Our generation has so much knowledge; we don’t know how to use it. For us, fighting distractions have become of prime significance.

What do we do in such situations where distractions are a part of daily life? 

I know I will reach my goals if I put in the daily hours. However, on days where distractions win, I ensure I do my daily activities even if they have to be for few seconds. It helps me to sustain the habit and not break the continuity.

Reading is one habit I wanted to cultivate. To sustain the habit, I read minimum one line with full awareness. If one line was not possible, then I just read just one word.

Writing is one habit I still struggle with, so I decided to write my original quotes. Now it has become a game. I try and summarise every situation into one line quote. I plan to use them in my articles. I got the idea of the quote below when I too tired to even sit.

Make your daily goals so tiny that you can achieve them even if you are half asleep.

Yes! that’s it. The solution is simple. For any habit, make it so tiny that you can do it every day.

Please share your experience of starting a new habit and how you overcame challenges to sustain the habit?

 

Goals Goals Goals! Where do you go after the first few months of the year?

Goals Goals Goals! Where do you go after the first few months of the year?

Every year we set goals expecting we will work on them. Like everyone, I did set my goals religiously every year. For most of my life, I forgot about my goals just after a few months of the year. Naturally, I was filled with the feeling of guilt and resentment for the rest of the year.

2017 was different. I realised if I did the same things and expect different results; I was only making a fool of myself. So I consciously made an effort to all those things that I would usually not do.

I started by choosing a driving force that will keep me going. I did not want to be mediocre. I decided to do more things I loved and most importantly do them every day.

Out of the many things I did at the start of 2017, here are top 3 of them that helped me significantly.

1. Read Books and started reading articles on Medium

I did not like reading books. I forced myself to read not just any book but those that will help me execute my goals.

I began by reading The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. I then read 4 Disciplines of Execution by Jim Huling and Rajan Kaicker. Both of them significantly changed my mindset.

If books are still not your thing, read Medium. It’s the best self-help platform I have come across. I still read one article per day. Interestingly it has answers to the questions I ponder over.

I quickly put all the knowledge I gained to action.

I decided to read, write, and learn to play the keyboard. To keep myself up to date on the career front, I decided to learn technical skills from Lynda and Coursera. I decided to get up early, exercise and meditate to improve my productivity. I made self-journals, made notes, made to-do lists to keep my mind organised.  Taking cold showers was for learning to face my fears daily. Make videos on my YouTube channel. Spend quality time with family. Inspire people. Do those adventurous activities I always wanted to do.

Seems impossible?

It did to me at first. Its 11 months now and I have successfully installed these habits into my daily routine. Also, I learned to Scuba dive, and the experience has been satisfying. Check out my experience in this video.

2. Start with just one goal and break it down into small tasks

I did not build each habit from day one. I started by taking the 52-week challenge on Goodreads. I recorded the time it takes to finish one book. A 250 page for me took around 6 hours. So, I needed to read 50 pages in an hour for six days in a week. One day for a buffer. With this strategy in mind, it was easy for me to sustain the habit.

I always have a strong Why for any activity I take up. It helps me stay motivated.

Why 52 books?

If Bill Gates like personalities, despite their busy schedules find time to read daily, I could do it too. Moreover, since I had read a few books, I knew how they could significantly impact my thinking. And I wanted to do it because I started enjoying it. I now have a mini library and a gifted myself a Kindle after I read ten books.

Image of a book shelf
My Mini Library

As of today, I have read over 27 books this year falling short by 50%. A phenomenal achievement for a person who has not read even 25 books in his whole lifetime. In 2018, I will give another shot at reading 52 books.

When you learn to master one habit, you now know how to develop more habits and sustain them. You brain ticks automatically to make more space for your activities.

3. Tracking the progress of all your activities

Cricket or any other sport is exciting because there is a scoreboard that is visible always. By looking at the scorecard, you can instantly tell if your team is winning or losing.

Similarly, if take each goal and track your progress daily, it keeps you going. The day you see you have done 21 days without missing a day you will know you have built a momentum. Now don’t break this chain. If your goal is to read every day, then read minimum one line to keep going. One quote that made a difference was from one of the most famous comedian Seinfeld. It was on writing new jokes every day.

“Take a big calendar and mark the days you wrote. For chains and don’t break them. If you are not writing every day, you are getting good at not doing it.” – Seinfeld

It’s been nine months since I started using the app called HabitHub to track my habits. Simple to use and keeps me motivated by quotes daily. While writing this blog, I got the following quote:

“Winning starts with beginning.”

Reading Graph
Percentage completion of my daily reading habit

Good luck setting and achieving your Goals for 2018!

I always thought my life is not that interesting

I always thought my life is not that interesting

We all insecure, not in all aspects but few of them. Some people are completely insecure.

I was insecure too. Maybe I still am.

I wanted to write. So, I bought a website. Learned how to use WordPress CRM.

In November 2013, I wrote an article One Sided Love and published it. It contained not more than 200 words. I felt a sense of achievement. However, it did not last long. I realised my Grammar was weak; I had few words in my dictionary, and I feared to express my sincere self.

It is now exactly four years since I first wrote my first article. The journey is amazing. At first, I wrote with my insecurities at its peak. Maybe I still have some vulnerabilities but don’t fear expressing now.

The decision not live a life of mediocracy has propelled in making my life exciting and full of possibilities.

Today I enjoy the process of writing and expressing my true self. I write and make courses for my YouTube Channel daily. I enjoy being in this space. My goals before lacked a sense of direction. Now, I dare to dream bigger.

What made this difference in my life? – Comparing myself to others. 

I used to compare myself to others which made me feel small. I decided to work on myself and erase this need to compare myself to others. It was a slow process, but it worked. Now I race against my yesterday’s version.

I think to myself, If I can write 500 words in one session, I think I can write 1,000 words also. I push myself to achieve the targets I set for myself. More often I meet them. When I reach my goal, it fuels my motivation levels.

The process of working on yourself it lifelong and I have committed to this journey. This shift in my mindset has made my life interesting and enjoyable.

This journey would not be possible without the timely support of friends, family and mentors. I will be forever thankful to them.

If you think your life is not that interesting, Think Again!

Moreover, if you think your life interesting, do leave your story in the comment section. 🙂